How to Grow Independent By Loving Yourself
How to Grow Independent By Loving Yourself
By Viola Woolcott
Loving yourself is empowering! Making anybody else responsible for you feeling loved and looking for it outside of yourself is disempowering. ONLY by loving yourself you grow to be independent.
I am sure that most of you have noticed that almost every time you switch on the radio you will most likely hear a song that talks about some kind of co-dependent love.
On a subconscious level your mind is programmed to believe that being loved only comes from someone outside of yourself, meaning that you need someone in your life that continuously reassures you of loving you. To me it is obvious that love that depends on someone in your “outer world” is like “artificial” love and it is not the “real” thing, as it will come and go like day and night. One moment your partner adores you – the next you feel rejected. I am sure most of us experienced that feeling!
Love itself is your true nature and at the core of your being is an endless source of pure unconditional love and when you turn towards this source of love, only than you start loving yourself. The love that pours consistently from your innermost being, occurs “naturally” within you, it is what self-love consists of, NO MATTER what is going on in your outer world or even how difficult your life may have become. Loving yourself gives you a true sense for feelings of worthiness, a true sense of freedom, since you no longer depend on others for feelings of love and worthiness.
Haven’t we all been challenged by intimate relationships before? Feeling bound to a particular person can make you feel unloved at some stage. By feeling unloved, the more dependent, the more needy you become, the more you reach outside yourself looking for more love, which in turn creates even more stress and more pressure for your partner. By loving yourself you grow to be independent and stop relying on your partners love for feelings of worthiness. The sweet secret and the main “ingredient” for manifesting divine experiences 24/7 is Self-Love. Loving yourself is empowering! Making anybody else responsible for you feeling loved is disempowering. Spend time loving yourself and you will stop being so hard on yourself. Switch to being gentle with yourself. Let go of your desire, your need for someone to love you or make you feel loved.
True and endless love is that which cannot be changed, damaged or altered in any way. By loving yourself, you naturally pour your love onto others without needing anything back in return.
A partnership can only blossom, develop and grow into a relationship where both you and your partner feel whole, complete, and loved no matter what occurs and which also enables you both to thoroughly and completely relax into the true joy of being together.
“He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.” ~ Benjamin Franklin ~
Related links:
How to Love Yourself: Cherishing the Incredible Miracle That You Are
The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving Kindness: How to Love Yourself and Your World
Chicken Soup For the Soul Vol 1: Learning To Love Yourself [2006] (REGION 1) (NTSC)
Attitude Believe In Yourself Motivational Framed Art Poster Print - 20″ X 16″
Filed under: Mind | Body | Spirit on December 5th, 2007
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