Deal with Your Life Proactively, on Your Terms
Deal with Your Life Proactively, on Your Terms
By Viola Woolcott
Don’t we all want fulfilment? But filled by what? We are not even sure ourselves. Most of us just know hollowness and how much the emptiness hurts. We all want to be “filled” and we start to go looking out in the world. Searching for things, or the person that will satisfy our continuing and longing that we feel within.
Many people search their entire lifetime just to end up feeling as empty as when we started. And there are other people who hear that they should be looking within and not “without”. Doesn’t that make sense when you think about it?
You may have already searched outside of yourself just to learn that you cannot buy a house that is big enough to make you feel fulfilled. Having enough money in the bank does not create the feeling of fulfilment neither, nor does having enough friends. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with having those things, but they have nothing to do with fulfilment at all. That would be a bit like watching a food programme on television and to expect to get stuffed.
How about looking within yourself? Does that not make sense? Quite often when we start looking within, we do not like what it is that we see. The first thing that we see is a cloud of unresolved feelings and emotions that surround nearly every person on this planet. The reasons for unresolved feelings and emotions are because we don’t want or maybe didn’t know how to deal with it in the first instance. Hence the reason why most are so driven to search and look outside of themselves. If only you realised how easy it is to work your way through it!
All you need to do is process your thoughts and feelings, as that is the “fine” line that separates genius from sanity. You have to get through this, so you can get to what is real. It is SO easy and also VERY effective.
The way I usually suggest doing this is by just getting out pen and paper and start to write down your own frustrations, anger, bitterness, hurt, jealousy, and even your fears as well as maybe you feeling sorry for yourself. It is no secret, but your life changes on a fundamental level, once you “get it”. It is like as if someone is passing you the key to freedom. You start to feel hope and you start reclaiming your power.
But as wonderful as it seems, processing alone won’t give you fulfilment. It removes the “fluff”. It lets you see what’s more real. What’s beyond the fluff. Once you do, it gets a little bit more intense as you are than faced with your own blockages… and boundaries…and walls. These are the walls of what I call separation. Only than will you reach the point of diminishing return.
The walls within are made of pain. Unexpressed pain. And there is no way that you can talk your way out of pain. To one degree to another, our walls of pain within separate us from fulfilment. And you have to look at it and face up to it.
Whatever you like to call it, but imagine the separation, the pain being like a “blanket of bitterness” and imagine it being made of barb wire, a blanket of uncomfortably. Each day spend a little time to feel that barb wire, than FEEL your own bitterness, hostility and your frustration, just allow it, whatever comes up, whatever you are feeling. Absorb the feeling right into you. Feel it in your skin. It’s rawness. DO NOT tell yourself a story about what you feel. DO NOT try explaining them. DO NOT attempt to justify them.
Feeling them “cleanly”, they will release and disappear on their own, as if you do not feel them cleanly, they WON’T release.
This is the answer. The more that you allow yourself to “feel” what it is in this blanket of pain, the more the blanket disappears and the more powerful “You” will become. Deal with your life proactively - ON YOUR TERMS!
You will not get there in a day, but this is the way to come closer to true fulfilment. Fulfilment happens ONLY by completely and totally as well as honestly giving up the delusion of separateness. Wouldn’t this be worth more than all the money in the world?
Filed under: Mind | Body | Spirit on November 28th, 2007
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